Thoughts on Anger at Yourself
Anger at yourself is the third kind of anger that I see clinically that can interfere with physical functioning. I see it as underweight that can’t be effectively managed, autoimmunity, low back pain that won’t abate, hormones that won’t balance, blood sugar that won’t stabilize, ongoing digestive dysfunction, and difficulty moving beyond all past traumas. Just to illustrate a few clinical situations for you…
Resolving this kind of anger can take a lot of talking through the events to see things through a different lens, a lot of carefully chosen flower essences, which gently but firmly dissolve emotions from the physical systems, some breathwork, some references to forgiveness of the self/ situation/ all the players (see my thoughts on forgiveness post here), and some careful conversation about removing judgment from how the person reflexively reacted in the moment, often under circumstances of severe fight and flight. This conversation has to be careful because people can feel distraught when down to this level of potential healing, and if the conversation is not gentle and compassionate, I have seen those who double down on this anger at themselves instead of releasing it.
As with the other types of anger that I made recent videos about, it is essential for the systems and cells of your body to release it, not just your mind and your consciousness. For this to happen, I help people to realign their thoughts and understanding as I detailed above to begin the process of release, and then look for ways that they can use the larger muscle groups of the body to finish this shift and facilitate the person operating from a new perspective. (Once again, here is my rage room recommendation, although there are other ways to process our emotions physically as well..) I hope this makes sense; it is for many a very difficult topic that dovetails with the next and perhaps last emotion we will talk about, which is shame, and how shame dances with anger at ourselves to create a very deeply rooted toxic ecosystem for our bodies. Releasing such damaging emotions from the system helps people to operate entirely differently in their bodies and their lives. It marks a new chapter in life for those who embark on this work and then commit to seeing it through. It can change who you attract into your life, what situations you find yourself in, and how you interact with family and friends, and it can even change your posture.
It has been described to me as “a whole new life”, and I absolutely agree.
I hope this post finds you well and happy.
Until we connect again, take good care,
Dr. Lisa
